"She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue."
This passage of Scripture is a picture of what a woman looks like after a lifetime of God's work in her life. It is not an instant process. But if you give God permission to mold and shape you according to His plan, slowly but surely you will emerge as a woman who looks very much like the portrait in Proverbs 31.
This passage is not in the Bible to intimidate us and make us feel like we must achieve this standard. The good news of Jesus is that He came to achieve this standard for us. You don't have to try to be a and do everything in Proverbs 31. You only need to submit to the Father, and let Him change you from the inside out. Then your life will begin to match the image of the godly woman found in this Proverb.